Co-parenting from afar

When one parent lives a significant distance from the other, it can seem difficult for the child and non-residential parent to stay connected, present and involved in each others’ lives.  The good news is that nowadays, there are so many ways to help mitigate the reality that after separation or divorce, one parent moves away.  It is the responsibility of both parents to encourage frequent, healthy and continuing communication between your child and his mommy or daddy.  With some rare exceptions, this communication is what is in the best interest of your child.  Remember that your relationship with your ex is separate and distinct from your child’s relationship with your ex.  There are many creative ways to stay connected.  Several options can be accomplished for a minimal cost.  Subscribe to one of the live video chat software companies out there – Google+, Skype, Instant Messenger or iCall just to name a few.  Set up chat times but be sure to work around the age and development of your child, as well as any nap times, feeding schedules, or extracurricular activities. If you have a young child, you can purchase books that will allow you to record your voice as you “read” aloud to him or her!  Here’s one example: http://www.hallmark.com/online/in-stores/storybooks/recordable-storybooks/.  You can also create personal board books – http://www.pintsizeproductions.com/boardbook-baby.html.  Send photos, arts & crafts, etc. to each other.  Children enjoy receiving phone calls and mail – so don’t forget to utilize the more traditional ways of keeping in touch.  Your efforts and mementos will be cherished and appreciated for years to come!

About Gabriela Sandoval

Attorney, Child & Family Investigator and Board Certified Child Welfare Law Specialist